Who am I…Honestly
Who am I…honestly
“We only see what we want to see; we only hear what we want to hear. Our belief system is like a mirror that shows us only what we believe in.” — Don Miguel Ruiz
Honestly…
I just added this “honestly…” in the title…
… and for half an hour, I’ve been staring at a blank page…
… actually, I have absolutely no idea how this text will unfold…
…because I’m truly not sure what the right answer is…
No philosophical or entrepreneurial or charismatic answers like:
- “I am who I am”
- “I am what I decide”
- “I am the sum of my choices and consequences”
- “I am Love”
- “I am Hope”
- “I am a king”
- “I am who I am in my soul”
…or something else…
You know, it’s not that these answers are wrong…
But they’re not exactly 100% accurate either.
Who (really) am I?
Okay, I know I’m a sum of beliefs — my beliefs…
I mean, I guess they’re mine? But:
- Aren’t those the beliefs of my parents?
- Aren’t those the beliefs of my environment — relatives, friends, and acquaintances?
- Aren’t those maybe the beliefs of both my parents and the environment, which I then decided (or had to) accept as mine?
- Could they be beliefs from social media?
And ultimately:
👉 Do all the beliefs I currently hold about myself and the world actually serve me…
…or do some of them harm me?
I’m not even sure why I used the verb “serve” for beliefs — it just came to me as the first word.
Actually, I do know why I wrote that…
My first thought was that beliefs serve me…
But deep down, the real first thought, deeply rooted, was:
“I am a servant to my beliefs.”
Yes. I actually serve my beliefs, not the other way around. I am their slave.
If we are the masters of our beliefs…
…then we could just swap them for better ones. Or discard them.
Because — why hold onto beliefs that bring no benefit or even harm us, right?
Beliefs are part of our identity, of who we are.
Tony Robbins, for instance, says identity is “the sum of our beliefs that define who we are, what we can and cannot do.”
So, our beliefs may be the key point of what we are.
However, it’s hard for us to let go of our beliefs (even the completely wrong ones), because we feel like:
- we’d lose our identity.
- we’d lose our comfort zone.
- we wouldn’t know where to go next in life.
But… is that really true?
While I was researching the terms “identity” and “beliefs” online, I noticed the word religion came up often.
For many, religion is connected with — no offense — blind faith in what’s written in holy scriptures.
That’s just how it is. It’s written. It’s dogma. Must not be questioned.
If it says we are all sinners — then we are sinners. Period.
If that’s instilled from childhood, it must be true.
But when someone says we’re not all sinners, and even lives a better life than the one who believes we are — then inner conflict arises.
But we choose to persist despite that conflict…
Because we believe our suffering will be rewarded.
Our beliefs must be right.
But then a seed of doubt appears…
What if some of my beliefs are wrong?
And then, through some personal development work, a person reaches the realization:
“Some of my beliefs are wrong.”
They don’t do me any good.
They make me miserable.
I feel like I’m not growing because of them.
Actually, I feel like I’m not living — I’m just surviving.
I’ve become bitter.
But…
How do I change those beliefs?!
They’re my comfort zone.
I’ve tried to change them — but I always revert to old patterns.
Does this sound familiar?
Changing identity “overnight” is superhuman.
Few succeed — usually after some catharsis, shock, crisis, or external influence.
Some succeed.
Many don’t.
In fact, many have a nervous breakdown, give up, or live bitter half-lives.
There’s another way: #stepbystep
Gradual change.
Patient. Smart.
With faith in oneself and faith in the process.
This is also known as the kaizen approach.
But… the challenge is that we don’t see quick results.
And that’s when many give up.
I know — I’ve been guilty of this mindset myself many times.
But — how do I persist in changing myself… if I don’t know who I am?
And more importantly…
Who do I want to become?
Am I that version of myself I see in my mind?
That idealized one, nurtured by my imagination?
But maybe that version isn’t functional in the real world…
Maybe the truth is “somewhere in the middle”?
But even then — I don’t know who I am!
And then it hit me…
What if parts of my identity disappeared?
Yes, just for a few minutes, what if all my negative, useless beliefs vanished?
Imagine a hypothetical/fantasy scenario:
- I’m clinically dead for 5 minutes and experiencing an “otherworldly” journey
- In a final test by a mystical teacher, I confront my fears
- In a shamanic journey, I connect with nature and spirits
- Like a cyborg, I replace weak beliefs with strong ones by uploading a new program
And then I discover my answer/transformation:
kamehameha, Super Saiyan form, bankai, spirit animal, Inner Warrior… call it whatever you want.
Let’s try. Just for 5 minutes.
Let’s try through this simple exercise. ⬇⬇⬇
🧭 Exercise: Engraving New Beliefs – Identity Reset
Turn everything off. Brain. Ego. Everything.
It’s just you and your subconscious.
Imagine:
You are a clay tablet, engraved with your beliefs.
- The ones you want to keep — let them stay.
- The bad ones — erase them.
And now — while you are “absent” from this world,
engrave new beliefs.
Beliefs you want to hold about yourself.
Beliefs that lift you up.
That would make you feel safe, calm, confident.
Take your phone. Set a timer — 5 minutes.
You vanish from this material world briefly.
You know you’ll return in five minutes…
During these 5 minutes you act instinctively, without overthinking:
- engrave new beliefs
- don’t fantasize — you know what you want
- engrave with truth, with tears, with sweat, with blood (metaphorically, of course)
- no one but you matters during those five minutes
Your five minutes are almost up, and you feel something pulling you back from that inner world into this real one…
5…
4…
3…
2…
1…
You return.
Who am I?
Now I know better.
I also know who I want to become.
And you, my friends?
🧩 Suggested Micro-Exercise:
If you want to discover which beliefs sabotage you the most, set a timer for 3 minutes or 90 seconds.
The ones that pop up first under pressure — are likely your biggest blockers.
That might be your first point of transformation.
